Why Tell the Secret? Part III

November 03, 2005

Following is Part III of our "Why Tell the Secret?" series. For Parts I and II, see previous entries on November 1st and 2nd.

Sharing the secret can strengthen the bond between you and your children and between them and God. Your abortion experience has had a major impact on your life, on who you have become. Allow your children to know you for who you are, why you are the way you are, and testify to what God has brought you through and how He has blessed your life as a result of having laid this sin at His feet. Telling your children of your abortion lets them know that there is nothing they could do that God won�t forgive nor is there any situation He can�t redeem for His glory when it is surrendered to Him.

Family secrets are often destructive. Even after having gone through the healing process we often continue to respond to issues, many of which involve our children, based on our abortion experience. Being able to talk freely with your children about those things � letting them know why you feel the way you do about certain things because of your abortion experience � can help them to understand you and your rules, etc., which in turn can help to minimize conflict (especially during the teen years).

Even if your children are grown with kids of their own, telling them the truth about your abortion can explain a lot of things from their childhood that they may not have previously understood. Don�t allow the secret of your abortion to hinder the relationships with your living children.

Look for Part IV of this series tomorrow.

Posted by mary at November 3, 2005 01:59 PM