Marital Problems and Abortion?

Many churches and parachurch organizations spend countless hours and resources trying to help people have biblically strong marriages by teaching them to improve communication and resolve conflicts, etc. But with all these seminars and marriage retreats the divorce rate among Christians continues to be just as high as it is for non-Christians. While most of these programs offer sound advice and practical applications, and are well worth the price of admission, I can't help but wonder if what we're missing isn't something along the lines of an unresolved abortion experience.

Two of the symptoms of post-abortion syndrome are (1) disruption in interpersonal relationships and (2) sexual disturbances. Many of the couples that experience sex and intimacy problems, intense anger, bitterness, or unforgiveness within their marriages can, with proper counsel, trace those symptoms back to an unresolved abortion experience.

If you regularly counsel couples struggling with sexual dysfunctions such as avoidance of sex or sexual addictions, or if there are obvious signs of intimacy issues or areas of intense anger or bitterness between them, ask if there is an abortion in their past, either together as a couple, or individually prior to marriage. These symptoms can be caused by other events of course, but many times abortion is the culprit. Either way, if they are coming to you for help the best thing you can do is ask them the tough questions that may help to reveal the root causes of their problems. Then, if either or both of them have experienced an abortion, compassionately walk with them through the healing process.

If you are interested in learning more about compassionate, Christ-centered abortion recovery, please contact us at staff@inourmidst.com.