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June 30, 2005

Passing Them Off?

I joined a pastors' forum a couple of weeks ago to see if I could begin building relationships with some pastors and to begin dialoging with them about abortion recovery within the Church. There hasn't been a lot of conversation on the topic of abortion (no surprise there), but what I've found is that the mindset *seems* to be that it is a normal, acceptable thing to pass off those who are struggling with a past abortion to parachurch organizations. This tendency troubles me, although, once again I am not surprised.

It *seems* that the Church (in general) has an open-door policy for helping their members deal with "ordinary" life issues like marital problems, parenting issues, even addictions like pornography and substance addictions. But oddly enough, when the word abortion arises, the protocol is to send them somewhere else. Am I the only one that finds this odd and even, shall I say, unacceptable?

Any thoughts on this? Have any of you experienced this within your church? How can we help to change this attitude?

Note: I do not in any way oppose parachurch organizations that provide abortion recovery. I am grateful beyond words for all those who work diligently outside the "walls" of the Church to bring healing to those wounded by abortion. I enthusiastically support their efforts and their heart in this much-needed ministry.

June 23, 2005

Pro-Choice Not Pro-Abortion?

I received an interesting email a few days ago from a post-abortive Christian woman who was offended by some of the materials on our web site. One of the things she made very clear to me was that (in her view of things) pro-choice is not the same thing as pro-abortion.

I know what I think about this statement, but I would like to know what others think. Is there a significant difference between being pro-choice and pro-abortion? What say you?

Note: This is not an invitation to get "political"...just an invitation for open discussion. :)

June 17, 2005

"No Results"

I spent some time this afternoon checking out the top ten mega-churches in the United States. Some of them had well over thirty ministries ranging from Divorce Care groups, addiction recovery groups, marriage counseling, singles' ministry, and grief recovery to physical fitness and weight-lifting groups, home repair, financial counseling, Boy Scouts, and the list goes on. It was disappointing how the search results for the word "abortion" would come up "No results" time after time. However, while this may be a bit on the despairing side, it is also encouraging that three of the ten do indeed have abortion recovery groups! And, because the other seven don't have them at this time doesn't mean they won't ever have them.... It merely means we have our work cut out for us!

Kudos go to the following churches for providing abortion recovery programs:

  • Saddleback Community Church, Lake Forest, CA
  • Willow Creek Community Church, S. Barrington, IL
  • Southeast Christian Church, Louisville, KY

    If you know of a church -- no matter how large or small -- that provides an abortion recovery program, please let us know (by clicking on the comments box below)! We want to hear from you!

  • June 14, 2005

    Mighty Oaks, Tender Shoots

    A Reminder of the Importance of Unity in the Body of Christ

    Mighty oaks are a sight to see. Tall and straight, strong and seemingly invincible, they house the birds, they work to clean the air, and they provide shade and shelter from storms and blazing heat. They drop hundreds of acorns, seeds that when falling on fertile soil will sprout and grow into tender shoots.

    The mighty oaks’ roots go deep into the soil, soaking up vital minerals and pure, unpolluted water, growing taller and straighter and mightier still.

    Those tender shoots grow best when watered and protected from wild animals that would eat them or worms or bugs that would devour them. The mighty oak can (and should) shelter the tender shoots, protecting them from fierce winds and damaging heat and pummeling hail.

    Through nature God has provided beautiful examples for us to follow as Christians. Those of us who have matured and continue maturing in His Spirit and in His Word are the mighty oaks; those who are new to the faith, the tender shoots. The mighty oaks have the responsibility to protect and nurture the tender shoots, guarding them from the “elements” that would beat them down, chew them up, and destroy them. We, the mighty oaks are to come alongside those tender shoots and exemplify what it is to be mighty in God’s strength, discipling them through our actions, our attitudes, and our words. Lifting them up in prayer, holding them up with our own resources if needed, as Aaron and Hur held up Moses’ arms during the siege in Exodus 17. We are to encourage them and if or when they fail, we are to lovingly admonish and restore them, not pull them up by the roots like weeds.

    Why is it that we are so prone to weeding out those tender shoots when they are just being tender shoots? Weren’t we tender shoots at one time?

    As Christians we bear a huge responsibility for those seedlings, saplings, and shoots around us. But too often, we get puffed up in our mightiness…forgetting Who it is that has made us tall and strong and mighty, and for what purpose He has done so. And the sad thing is, none of us are immune to that possibility or temptation. Each of us have our areas of pride. But we are not called to be proud. We are called to be humble servants, and when we forget that, our God loves us enough to discipline us. Occasionally a mighty oak will be pruned and will grow stronger and straighter still. But, sadly, sometimes even mighty oaks fall prey to lightning or disease. And yes, sometimes even the mighty oak will dry up and die. But even then, as it decomposes in the soil its death serves future shoots and seedlings, because “…we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.” Romans 8:28 (NASB).

    [A word of warning: At the same time, let us also be careful not to rejoice in the felling of those mighty oaks, but only in the awesome power of our God to redeem even the most painful situations for His glory.]

    Our purpose is both simple and difficult. All the more reason why we need each other. God has called us to unity in the body to glorify Himself and to fulfill His purposes through us. “Jesus said…, "Any kingdom divided against itself is laid waste; and any city or house divided against itself will not stand.” Matthew 12:25 (NASB) We cannot crush the tender shoots around us and expect to fulfill God’s calling or purpose for our lives. It’s an amazing thing, but we need those tender shoots, and if we crush them, we too shall fall.

    I leave you with Jesus’ prayer for us in John 17. May His words penetrate all our hearts as we seek to serve Him in that to which He has called us.

    "I do not ask on behalf of these alone,
    but for those also who believe in Me through their word;
    that they may all be one; even as You,
    Father, are in Me and I in You, that they also may be in Us,
    so that the world may believe that You sent Me.” John 17:20, 21 (NASB)

    June 10, 2005

    Can I Live?

    You may or may not be a rap fan. I love many kinds of music, but rap is clearly not my favorite! Whether you're a fan or not here's a song by Nick Cannon you won't want to miss. Apparently it's based on the true story of Nick's mom who went to an abortion clinic when she was two months pregnant with him -- but praise God!, she changed her mind and let her son live. (That's Nick hugging his mother at the end of the song.)

    The movie takes a minute or so to optimize, so be patient when you click on the link. You won't want to miss this powerful testimony of a mother who almost ended the life of her son, and the gratitude he expresses to her for choosing to let him live.

    Sources tell me this song is getting air time on MTV.... If so, what a powerful tool for those who are considering abortion! My only concern is for those for whom it is too late. If they come to your church for healing, will they find the help they need?

    If not, how can we help? Let us know.... That's what we're here for!

    [Click here to see the lyrics of "Can I Live."]

    June 04, 2005

    Ministry Spotlight

    I LOVE the After Abortion blog! Their tag line is: Life after abortion: News, opinion, personal experience, resources. -- and that's exactly what they offer -- with a healthy dose of support, encouragement, honesty, and prayer for one another thrown in for good measure. The women who run the site (Emily and Annie) have been there and back, and what they have built is a safe place for others like them (and us!) to see what's going on in the world of abortion (from every angle) and to be able to comment on those things while working through the emotions stirred up in the process. Awesome!

    I highly recommend this site for everyone in post-abortion ministry. It's a great way to keep your finger on the pulse of abortion while experiencing the relevance to those who are affected by it personnally.

    Great job, Emily and Annie! Your site is a blessing!